Tag: PARENTHOOD

Pregnancy Care: When To Call Your Doctor

Pregnancy Care: When To Call Your Doctor

When I was pregnant first time round, I really didn’t have much of a clue about pregnancy, health or complications within a pregnancy. I ended up seeking help from books and parenting websites when I had a symptom I was unsure about. They were a […]

CENTER PARCS 2018

CENTER PARCS 2018

You know when you wait so long for a holiday, 365 days in fact, and it arrives and then its over before you know it. Yeah that. We have started going to Elvedon, Center Parcs for the past 3 years. Its been wonderful and something […]

AGE APPROPRIATE CHORES FOR YOUR CHILDREN

AGE APPROPRIATE CHORES FOR YOUR CHILDREN

Assigning chores for your children to do is very important and it will serve them well later in life. There are two main reasons why parents should assign chores to their kids- one is to prepare them for life, for when they grow up and start living apart from their families, and the other is to keep them busy while still little and teach them responsibility and respect. Both reasons, however, are rather relevant and aim to accomplish the same thing- learning responsibilities, avoiding laziness, being less dependent on their parents and learning to do things on their own.
One of the biggest mistakes parents make is think their children are way too young to do cleaning chores, but unless your child is basically still a baby(0-1 year, year and a half), this statement is completely false. By not letting your child do chores you are doing more harm than good. You might be surprised by your child’s capabilities from a young age. They are not at all incapable of helping around the house and being a productive member of the family from a young age.
We will be combining personal chores with family chores as it doesn’t really matter. From a young age, whom or what they benefit, as long as they do.
(Age 2-5)
From such a young age children do not grasp the full context behind chores and why are they important, the fact is they are happy to be part of the activity. Tidy Cleaners London suggests to make them do something simple like- make their own bed, take all the pillows from the floor and put them on the sofa,bed. Most of the chores that you assign your child, at such a young age, should be under parental supervision. The older they get the list grow. You can have your child move laundry from one place to another, help with the cleaning(dusting, wiping, sweeping). You can also get them to help care for a pet by refilling their bowl of water.
What you need to remember is that at this age your child is most likely to do a sloppy job, the point is that you should not have high expectations of the end results. While they are still too young it is the effort that counts, more than the successful outcome.
(Age 6-11)
As your child’s age advances you can start outsourcing more important tasks for them. Adding a to-do check-list for age appropriate children. It is when you can start building their sense of responsibility and teach them personal manners. As long as personal chores go, they should make their own beds, clean their rooms and take care of their own personal hygiene. They may even be able wake up on their own with the help of an alarm clock etc.
The list of family chores you can outsource to your child grows even longer. Some of them are still recommended under supervision, but most of them they are free to do on their own. Your child could help set  the table, empty indoor trash cans, answer the phone. They could also prepare easy meals such as lunch by themselves. Letting them also help wash the dishes under supervision and assist in washing the car.
From age 12 to 15 and above your child is practically capable of doing most of the housework. It depends on you how much you want to outsource to them. Keeping in mind that leaving your child unburden, without chores is usually the wrong way to go. Keep them busy with personal and family chores so that they can start preparing for the outside world and learn to deal with it on their own- step by step.
THESE TWO | NOVEMBER

THESE TWO | NOVEMBER

Every month I have decided to pop up a post all about my two. It only seems fitting considering this is a parenting blog. It’s rare that I blog about G and H specifically. I blog about how hard I find parenting and the struggles […]

THESE TWO | OCTOBER

THESE TWO | OCTOBER

Every month I have decided to pop up a post all about my two. It only seems fitting considering this is a parenting blog. It’s rare that I blog about G and H specifically. I blog about how hard I find parenting and the struggles […]

THESE TWO | SEPTEMEBER

THESE TWO | SEPTEMEBER

Every month I have decided to pop up a post all about my two. It only seems fitting considering this is a parenting blog. It’s rare that I blog about G and H specifically. I blog about how hard I find parenting and the struggles that come along with it, but not individually on how they are doing. I used to do updates every few months on how each were doing but I’ve decided to do it slightly different with how I go about the blog post. Monthly posts I feel will work better, and it’s a prompt for me to take more photos. Which is what I am lacking lately!

This past month has been hard. I won’t lie, I’ve been at breaking point during some parts. I’m not sure if its because the new school term started and after having a really lazy six weeks off, they have been hit with tiredness. I have screamed and shouted more times I can count and as a parent I have been tested.

I won’t say its either one or the other because quite frankly both G and H are just as bad as one another. H copies G and G thinks she can get away with anything and everything. I am assuming its her age and she is having a huge hormonal burst. But they have not been all bad, and I we have had a lovely month of sibling bonds.

 

As a parent I worry about how both get on at school and even how their relationship pans out when I am not there. This month an incident happened at school where H was really upset, so upset he sought out his sister in the playground and sobbed into her shoulder. I was actually really upset about it. But G stood up to the big sister role and really looked after him. She made sure he was ok and took him inside to the dinner ladies. Apparently H said she really took care of him.

G has taken a huge confidence knock since being back at school and I worry so much. She thinks she is rubbish at everything, which she really isn’t. She is such a clever, funny, bright young girl. I mentioned last month that we would be returning to swimming, and this is where her confidence really lacks. She is such a good swimmer, she struggles though, determined that she is no good. We just need to give her that little boost. She is willing to give it her all though, which I can only ask for.

She is definitely showing signs of hormonal changes, which as a parent is pretty scary. Her moods are up and down and sometimes I really believe I am failing her. One minute we can be having a lovely conversation and tenth next she could be sulking in her room. I find it really hard dealing with her emotions and I think I need to take a step back and several deep breaths before I go in like a banshee at her!

H has fitted into year 2 really well. We had a few hiccups but unlike G, who flits between friends, H has a good circle of friends and a wonderful best friend who is so so similar to him. He really leans on him and I think its lovely that he has found someone he can rely on when I am not there. This year he has improved on so many levels already. I just need to push him that little bit more to do things. He can be quite lazy if he is left to his own devices!

I mention it every month but I have positive news this month about bedtimes! Since being back at school, both G and H have made no qualms about going to bed. We still have the odd night where they can play up but nine times out of ten they listen and go to bed. H still invades our bed maybe, 3 times a month. He struggles to over come his nightmares, so ends up taking comfort with us. I do secretly like it as he cuddles me tight which is lovely.

Apart form the bickering this month I have loved watching them grow. We have had quite a few moments where I have wanted to scream into a pillow but the good always weigh out the bad. They have been wonderful to watch this month and I could not be prouder of them both.

THE WEEKEND BOX REVEIW WITH SNAZAROO FACE PAINTS

THE WEEKEND BOX REVEIW WITH SNAZAROO FACE PAINTS

A few weeks ago we were sent a Weekend Box and inside, were some great mini packs of Snazaroo face paints! You can never go wrong with face paints and its a fun activity for all to enjoy. Andy founded Weekend Box after looking for gift […]

THESE TWO | AUGUST

THESE TWO | AUGUST

Every month I have decided to pop up a post all about my two. It only seems fitting considering this is a parenting blog. It’s rare that I blog about G and H specifically. I blog about how hard I find parenting and the struggles […]

5 TIPS TO IMPROVE YOUR CHILDS CONCENTRATION

5 TIPS TO IMPROVE YOUR CHILDS CONCENTRATION

Children tend to be all over the place. You are never able to have them focus on one thing, and their thoughts always seem scattered. Now, at some point, you will need them to focus because it is just through that process they get to understand the world around them.

Here is what you can do to make sure they keep their concentration on specific tasks;

Keep technology away Phones and TV’s are a massive distraction. Children simply don’t seem to be doing much without them, and this puts you as the parent in a pickle. Sometimes taking your children’s devices off them will make them find other things to do like playing or going out with their friends.

Sleeping. If your child is going to bed too late then they are going to be really tired throughout the day which is going to make them not concentrate as well in school. It can also cause them to be moody. One way of  is to get a sunrise clock. This clock will help them to know when they need to go to sleep and it will also help them wake up gradually in the morning.

Let them balance between work and play. You can never emphasise on this quite enough. At times, the lack of concentration in children is the direct result of not being able to balance between their school/home chores and play time. Introduce a timetable for when to play and when to work.

Split tasks. Children tend to lose focus when they are given tasks that are too complex or time consuming to handle. If you are looking to get the best out of them, design tasks that have short sequences and if possible, breaks within the sequences. This way, you get to strike a balance between the work they are doing and their concentration spans.

Set deadlines. Kids love it when they have to work without deadlines, because it lets them do whatever they love. However, you’re looking to get the best out of them, so you need to set ultimatums. Let them know that if they do not concentrate on a single task and finish it on time, then there are going to be consequences.

THOSE PROUD MUM MOMENTS

THOSE PROUD MUM MOMENTS

On Friday, G and H received their yearly reports. Now, I am not sure about all schools, but we get a termly report along with our parents evening. Where they are expected to be and a mention of how they are doing that term. The […]