Assigning chores for your children to do is very important and it will serve them well later in life. There are two main reasons why parents should assign chores to their kids- one is to prepare them for life, for when they grow up and […]
Today my baby girl is nine. I cannot believe that we are in the last year of singe figures. Its scary at how fast those none years have passed. She was such a beautiful bundle of joy. She made me a mummy and gave me quite possibly the best job in the world. To look after her. Its scary that she is getting older and won’t lean on me as much as she used to.
The rush of love I had that first moment I clapped eyes on G has never disappeared. I still get it now. I am still so thankful that she, that big, bubbly, rather round newborn chose us as parents. It was so scary having a baby, it was all so new and it was like we were stepping into the unknown. But we managed and we have been amazed at how G has grown over the last nine years. Its incredible that she is ours.
She really is growing up to be the most beautiful, confident, caring, sweetest, clever, thoughtful young girl I know. She tries her best at everything which makes me so so proud. Don’t get me wrong she has her moments and they are some hell-of-a-moments. But without those she wouldn’t be who she is today. She is so loud and I wish I had a dial to turn her volume down, but when she is not here and she is at school or with friends, I miss that. I miss her big booming voice that echoes through the walls. I would not change her for anything.
Its scary that we are heading into the last year of single figures. Over the next few years comes so much change and its change I am not looking forward to. Its change that is the unknown for everyone. But for now lets celebrate that you are nine and lets not think about the fact at how quickly those nine years have crept up on us.
Heres to the last year of single figures.. Happy Birthday baby girl..
Every month I have decided to pop up a post all about my two. It only seems fitting considering this is a parenting blog. It’s rare that I blog about G and H specifically. I blog about how hard I find parenting and the struggles that come along with it, but not individually on how they are doing. I used to do updates every few months on how each were doing but I’ve decided to do it slightly different with how I go about the blog post. Monthly posts I feel will work better, and it’s a prompt for me to take more photos. Which is what I am lacking lately!
This past month has been hard. I won’t lie, I’ve been at breaking point during some parts. I’m not sure if its because the new school term started and after having a really lazy six weeks off, they have been hit with tiredness. I have screamed and shouted more times I can count and as a parent I have been tested.
I won’t say its either one or the other because quite frankly both G and H are just as bad as one another. H copies G and G thinks she can get away with anything and everything. I am assuming its her age and she is having a huge hormonal burst. But they have not been all bad, and I we have had a lovely month of sibling bonds.
As a parent I worry about how both get on at school and even how their relationship pans out when I am not there. This month an incident happened at school where H was really upset, so upset he sought out his sister in the playground and sobbed into her shoulder. I was actually really upset about it. But G stood up to the big sister role and really looked after him. She made sure he was ok and took him inside to the dinner ladies. Apparently H said she really took care of him.
G has taken a huge confidence knock since being back at school and I worry so much. She thinks she is rubbish at everything, which she really isn’t. She is such a clever, funny, bright young girl. I mentioned last month that we would be returning to swimming, and this is where her confidence really lacks. She is such a good swimmer, she struggles though, determined that she is no good. We just need to give her that little boost. She is willing to give it her all though, which I can only ask for.
She is definitely showing signs of hormonal changes, which as a parent is pretty scary. Her moods are up and down and sometimes I really believe I am failing her. One minute we can be having a lovely conversation and tenth next she could be sulking in her room. I find it really hard dealing with her emotions and I think I need to take a step back and several deep breaths before I go in like a banshee at her!
H has fitted into year 2 really well. We had a few hiccups but unlike G, who flits between friends, H has a good circle of friends and a wonderful best friend who is so so similar to him. He really leans on him and I think its lovely that he has found someone he can rely on when I am not there. This year he has improved on so many levels already. I just need to push him that little bit more to do things. He can be quite lazy if he is left to his own devices!
I mention it every month but I have positive news this month about bedtimes! Since being back at school, both G and H have made no qualms about going to bed. We still have the odd night where they can play up but nine times out of ten they listen and go to bed. H still invades our bed maybe, 3 times a month. He struggles to over come his nightmares, so ends up taking comfort with us. I do secretly like it as he cuddles me tight which is lovely.
Apart form the bickering this month I have loved watching them grow. We have had quite a few moments where I have wanted to scream into a pillow but the good always weigh out the bad. They have been wonderful to watch this month and I could not be prouder of them both.
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Children tend to be all over the place. You are never able to have them focus on one thing, and their thoughts always seem scattered. Now, at some point, you will need them to focus because it is just through that process they get to understand the world around them.
Here is what you can do to make sure they keep their concentration on specific tasks;
Keep technology away Phones and TV’s are a massive distraction. Children simply don’t seem to be doing much without them, and this puts you as the parent in a pickle. Sometimes taking your children’s devices off them will make them find other things to do like playing or going out with their friends.
Sleeping. If your child is going to bed too late then they are going to be really tired throughout the day which is going to make them not concentrate as well in school. It can also cause them to be moody. One way of is to get a sunrise clock. This clock will help them to know when they need to go to sleep and it will also help them wake up gradually in the morning.
Let them balance between work and play. You can never emphasise on this quite enough. At times, the lack of concentration in children is the direct result of not being able to balance between their school/home chores and play time. Introduce a timetable for when to play and when to work.
Split tasks. Children tend to lose focus when they are given tasks that are too complex or time consuming to handle. If you are looking to get the best out of them, design tasks that have short sequences and if possible, breaks within the sequences. This way, you get to strike a balance between the work they are doing and their concentration spans.
Set deadlines. Kids love it when they have to work without deadlines, because it lets them do whatever they love. However, you’re looking to get the best out of them, so you need to set ultimatums. Let them know that if they do not concentrate on a single task and finish it on time, then there are going to be consequences.